Summer Holiday Contact Arrangements After Separation: Why Planning Ahead Matters
WORDS: Kaleel Anwar, Partner at Slater Heelis Solicitors
As we are in full swing of the summer holidays, separated parents often find themselves faced with the challenge of agreeing on childcare arrangements. For some, the process is straightforward. For others, particularly where there’s been conflict or a history of control, it can feel overwhelming.
At Slater Heelis, we regularly support parents in shaping realistic, child-focused contact plans. We understand how important it is that children enjoy a stable, positive summer, and that both parents feel their voice is heard in the process.
Don’t Feel Pressured into an Unfair Arrangement
The school break shouldn’t become a source of stress or dispute, but we know it sometimes does. One parent may attempt to dictate terms, apply pressure, or push for arrangements that don’t reflect what’s best for the children or the wider family.
If this sounds familiar, it’s important to remember: you’re under no obligation to agree to anything that feels unsafe, unbalanced, or simply unworkable. Contact arrangements should always reflect the needs of the children, not the demands of one parent.
Putting Your Child’s Needs First
Every family is different, but a well-considered summer contact plan will usually take into account:
The children’s routines, ages, and preferences
Working patterns and childcare commitments
Pre-booked holidays and travel logistics
The need for both parents to enjoy quality time with minimal stress
Where possible, try to reach an agreement early and in writing. A clear schedule helps manage expectations and avoid last-minute tension.
What If We Can’t Agree?
If direct conversations are proving difficult, or feel impossible, there are other ways forward:
Mediation can help many families reach an agreement in a calm, structured way with the support of an impartial professional. It’s usually faster, less expensive, and less adversarial than going to court.
However, mediation isn’t always suitable, especially in situations involving coercive control, domestic abuse, or prolonged conflict. If you’re concerned for your safety or your child’s welfare, the right step may be applying for a Child Arrangement Order through the family courts. The court will always prioritise the best interests of the child, and a formal order can provide clarity when communication has broken down.
Our Advice for Summer Contact Planning
Start early. Last-minute arrangements are far more likely to lead to stress or disputes.
Keep discussions focused on the children, and document what’s agreed in writing.
Don’t give in to pressure — your concerns are valid, and there is legal support available.
Seek legal advice if you’re unsure about your rights or feel the arrangements aren’t working.
Explore mediation, but only where it’s safe and appropriate.
At Slater Heelis, we’re here to help you move forward with clarity and confidence, whether that’s through calm negotiation, formal legal advice, or support in court proceedings.
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